We become full by becoming empty

When we empty ourselves for others, we become full. But when we’re full of ourselves, we often end up feeling empty.

We often associate living fully with experiencing every high, traveling to new places, being successful, or living a social media-worthy life. Sometimes, I also wish the same for myself and for my kids. I actually dream of striking it rich with my investments and owning a beach house one day so my kids can just go to the sea whenever they want. And I would just spend my days writing by the sea.

But the most fulfilled people I meet, and ironically the most successful, are those who serve others through what they are doing. The best writers I know are those who inspire or help others become better people. The best employees I know are those who take ownership of their work for the betterment of the companies they’re working with. The best entrepreneurs I know are those who solve other people’s problems through their businesses. And the happiest people I know are not necessarily the richest, but those who empty themselves for their loved ones and even their neighbors every single day.

Lately, I find myself feeling empty. And I now understand that it’s because I’m too obsessed (again) with my own dreams and aspirations that I forget to serve and to love others through what I do, whether in my day job, my writing, my drawings, or the other things I’m doing.

As a person of faith, it also reminds me of what Jesus said to His disciples:

Whoever seeks to preserve his life will lose it, but whoever loses it will save it.
Luke 17:33 NAB

How about you? Are you feeling empty or are you emptying yourself for others?

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This post first appeared on carlocruz.org.

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I write and draw about faith, work, and personal development. Re-posting my work from carlocruz.org — a journal of things I learn and a space to pause and pray.

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I write and draw about faith, work, and personal development. Re-posting my work from carlocruz.org — a journal of things I learn and a space to pause and pray.

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